How To Heal Your Relationships By Clearing Old Incidents Spiritually

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Just last week I noticed a healing in relationship, an improved relationship that happened almost overnight with my older daughter (who just turned 18) after I connected with her on a soul / higher self level and I shared my experience with my friend Pamela Leach, who is a spiritual adviser. Pamela told me that she has not heard this healing process described so simply anywhere before, so she asked me to share it with my readers by writing it up in my blog.

First, some background: I’ve spoken with Pamela several times over the last few years about the challenges of raising teenagers, particularly when those teenagers are not in agreement with your life course (i.e. me taking an “alternative” path) and the success of that path hasn’t manifested yet. There was a lot of anger and resentment directed toward me (and to an extent, there still is).

The Counsel of Light had reminded me in November of last year (when Flo Aeveia Magdalena channeled their message to me) that connecting with my daughters soul to soul, seeing them in my mind’s eye sitting in a chair next to me, and speaking from my heart (as the Counsel of Light reminded me I had done with my husband years ago) would make a difference.

Anyway, about two weeks ago, I went to bed one night and remembered an “incident” I had with my older daughter when she was three years old. This is something that has weighed on my heart, and it has come up for me several times in the past (probably to have me clear it, but I didn’t know how to, not until recently).

My older daughter was three years and two months and my younger daughter was a few days old when the incident occurred. I had placed my newborn in the middle of my bed for a nap and then left the room. A little while later, I returned to the bedroom to discover my newborn on the floor next to the bed, my three year old eyeing her. And I got upset.

I remember I got afraid, had become overcome by the fear that I had one of “those” children who was jealous enough of their sibling, that they would hurt them. I yelled at my three-year old and grabbed her hand and pulled her out of the room and closed the door. You go to your room and stay there, screamed the scared mother.

I know now just how immature and inappropriate my reaction was, but back then I was impaired by my emotions and fear. And even though I had said I’m sorry to the three-year old in person soon after the incident occurred, I still felt something was incomplete.

So two weeks ago when I went to bed I connected with the soul / higher self of my older daughter (by focusing on my “sacred space” near my heart chakra and my soul seed and visualizing a connection with my daughter’s “sacred space”) and in my mind’s eye I visualized her sitting in a chair right next to me.

Then I spoke what was in my heart. I told her about what had happened when she was three years old, that I was afraid that she was one of those children who was jealous of her sibling, that I had screamed at her and pulled her out of the room and shut the door on her. I told her that I did not mean to do that, and that it must have been frightening to see her mother so mad. I told her I was so sorry about what had happened and that it was because I was overcome by my fear, not because she was bad. I told her that I love her, that I so wanted to have a better relationship with her, and I asked for her forgiveness.

After I said what all I wanted to say and I felt “clear,” in my mind’s eye I gave her a hug and told her goodnight. Then I fell asleep.

A few days later, I noticed a real shift in my relationship with my daughter. One evening I texted her, asking “Are you at work?” Rather than responding in her typical way, “WTF ya” she asked, “Ya why?” I texted back, “Just making sure you’re fine,” to which she responded “Thank you.” (That “Thank you” is a big deal to me.)

She also gave me a spontaneous hug on the stairs a day or two after that, and she is coming to me much more often than usual for advice regarding colleges and boy issues. (And since her perception of me is that I have wasted my Ivy League engineering degree on an endeavor that will get us nowhere, this is indeed a big deal.)

Sometimes you just can’t clear things with people in the physical. They may not be available, or talking to you, or even alive. Ideally, it’s good to clear things up on both levels, to clear the incident spiritually or “etherically” first, and then physically. (When you clear it on the spiritual level first, it will not have as much of a sting in the physical.)

I think it’s important also to share that I’ve noticed that I had incredible results like this happen much more often when I was inspired from within to work on a specific issue and I followed through promptly, right then and there–as I had done that evening about two weeks ago. And I noticed it worked less often in the case where I wanted something and going through the technique was a way to get what I wanted. This distinction is extremely subtle, but it’s very important to understand. (If you have been following my articles for years, you know that I have placed a lot of importance on “following through promptly and consistently with your inner guidance.”)

So I would recommend you familiarize yourself with the process first, then when you are guided to it, to go through the process promptly, and from your heart. I wish you and yours many, many blessings!

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  1. Shubhaangi K said:

    God bless you. This article talks much about your honesty to revive relationship with your daughter. It indeed is heart warming. The process which you have outlined; I am sure if followed, can do the necessary healing in all our relationships. Your experience speaks and we need to follow it. Thank you so much to have shared your experience with us.

    February 19, 2013
    • Thank you very much Shubhaangi! It is great to have you comment here. Hoping to hear more from you in the future. Christine.

      February 19, 2013
  2. Peter said:

    I love your story Christine! Thank you for sharing that technique, it is very empowering.

    I’m feeling that because we want to be 24/7 in the Source Flow we are getting all of our remaining rough edges smoothed off. Ouch at times!

    I’ve been feeling this most intensely over the last month or so, with challenges coming up that have forced me to “put my money where my mouth is” in terms of maintaining my ease of flow, and not succumbing to fears. I’ve also undergone an opening up to making the best of my long term relationship, where that person is not attuned to Ascension concepts. Work in progress, as always, but with a greater sense of ease about stuff in general. I feel the quickening, which is encouraging after the “non event” of 21/12/12. Blessings.

    February 20, 2013
    • Thanks for your comment Peter; it’s great to hear from you! Yes, there is a greater sense of ease these days (more so for those who have been consciously working on their issues), I am experiencing a lot of that, too. Take care, and I hope to hear more from you in the future. Christine

      February 21, 2013
  3. Brenda Jacklin said:

    Thank you so much! I will try to remember this, when it comes to my daughter.

    February 20, 2013
    • You’re very welcome, Brenda! Please share your experiences with this when you are able. Thanks! Christine

      February 21, 2013
  4. Katherine Morgan said:

    Thank you for sharing, this article really spoke to me. I’m a single mom of a 5 year old, and I’ve been under a tremendous amount of stress lately in addition to dealing with depression. I’m afraid I’ve taken it out on her quite a bit, getting angry, yelling, etc. I know my actions have affected her, and while I’ve told her I’m so sorry, I still feel the need to let her know spiritually. I’m going to do this soon to help us both heal…thank you so much! 🙂

    February 20, 2013
    • You’re very welcome Katherine! And thanks for sharing here on this blog. Christine

      February 21, 2013
  5. Les Schmidt said:

    Hi Christina,
    Thanks for sharing so openly. I have a similar challenge with my youngest (living) daughter who is harboring hurt from her childhood when I divorced her mother. Your story inspires me to use this technique to connect with her Higher Self and ask forgiveness and help her to heal. She is not open to discussion in the physical plane.

    February 20, 2013
    • You’re most welcome Les. I ask God for healing for both you and your daughter. Many blessings! Christine

      February 21, 2013
  6. selina said:

    Christine, Absent healing works wonders as it heals at a soul level and now you done this will be able to do this again on illnesses of the physical and mental bodies. Glad you have made things better with your daughter and happy healing :- ) Love and light always Selina x

    February 20, 2013
    • Thank you Selina! Always wonderful to hear from you, so full of wisdom. Christine

      February 21, 2013
  7. Dear Christine,
    What a wonderful exercise! Thank you for sharing the exercise and your story.
    Blessings and Sparkles,

    February 20, 2013
    • You’re welcome Brenda! When such an “exercise” is inspired from within and comes from the heart, it is indeed very powerful! Great to have you here! Christine

      February 21, 2013
  8. Pamela Leach said:

    So glad you posted this story in all its truth and the technique you used to heal this incident. Though I do a lot of inner-child and unhooking work, this element was missing. Thank you again for the permission to add this technique (with credit, of course) to my work. It is inspiring!

    February 20, 2013
    • Thank you Pamela! As I’ve mentioned in this post, I’ve experienced that this “technique” works much more often when it comes from the heart “spontaneously” and less often when it is “a formula that’s followed” in order to get something. Many blessings, Christine

      February 21, 2013
  9. Josh said:


    A phenomenal post! I was just telling my wife that I felt disconnected with my six-year-old son lately. I’ve been so busy that I haven’t had much time with him. This is partly my fault, but it’s hard to explain why this sometimes happens to such a young mind. He’s been acting out lately, which is the reason I realized our disconnect. I am going to try your method. These spiritual exercises work beneath our conscious radars in ways we can’t even imagine. Thanks for this.

    February 20, 2013
    • You are welcome Josh! I have been guilty of the same, but I am spending a bit more time with my kids these days, as well as connecting on an inner level. And it is making a difference. Many blessings, Christine

      February 21, 2013
  10. marylucker said:

    hi there christine and pamela
    a wonderful way to set things straight, when you were younger you did what you thought best at that time , no blame on you as you did your best on your journey.
    now that we know a lot more and maybe know where we are heading, we see things different.
    there is a wonderful book with a dvd that will help by brendan bays which may shed some light on these matters. my husband used it with success.
    keep the good work up i enjoy your letters. thanks christine

    February 21, 2013
    • Hi Mary,

      I have read the book by Brandon Bays many years ago. I really liked it, too. Some readers might want to check it out. Thanks for your contribution here on this blog. Looking forward to hearing more form you! Christine

      February 22, 2013
  11. Allison said:

    Hi Christine. I accidently deleted one of your new emails. Im wondering how I can find it. Thanks Allison

    March 9, 2013
  12. Allison said:

    Haha..ok right after hitting send. I figured it out on my own. Love your emails. Thanks again

    March 9, 2013

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